Kyle Defoor Mindset Video

[Outlander Systems]

Because I will be Goddamned if some low-life, mouth breathing deadbeat Shitbird is going to be my downfall; if he is, by God, he's dying with me that day.

Let's break down the discussion into its main categories.


1. Why are you doing what you do? Or in other words, why do you carry a gun or have a gun available to you?

A. To Protect yourself? Protect your family? To be a responsible citizen?
B. Be honest with yourself. Do you carry a gun because you thought it would be cool? To impress your friends, wife, etc?





C4

[C4IGrant]

Not saying that was the vibe of your posts or the intent of the thread, just making a general observation.

Ok. Just wanted to make sure as I didn't want anyone to think that D4 or myself were requiring anyone to answer any of the question listed. They are more for people to think about on their own.


C4

[C4IGrant]

Because I will be Goddamned if some low-life, mouth breathing deadbeat Shitbird is going to be my downfall; if he is, by God, he's dying with me that day.

Feeder or receiver. You are a feeder.


C4

[TXBK]

Mindset is something that needs to occur naturally, through hardship and experience.

How do you define hardship and experience here?

[Surf]

I understand the intimacy of the question posed and I only share this information as something to consider. Bad things could happen if we take action, we might even end up losing our life. But bad things might happen for our lack of action. For some there may be demons or things to deal with personally that may be worse than death. I do not wish my wife to lose a husband and my kids to lose a father, however there are things that are painful to live with for lack of action. While my situation was not something that I controlled, it has greatly influenced my drive the last 11 or so years in regards to my mindset and drive to train and excel at what I do. Therefore I will share the following.....

I have come to my own conclusions a long long time ago. I have lost friends, one who was like a brother. His unit performed a task that was not their forte. Gathering intel and passing that to us for action was the job. It was our task to perform and instead they took direct action and he was shot and killed. Looking his wife, 7 and 11 year old daughters in the eyes was a watershed moment in time for me. That was my job. "If only I", then perhaps he would still be here. The anger, guilt and feeling of loss was something that I never wish to feel again.

Some people think I may extend myself much more than necessary. That perhaps I have done my fair share over the years and that I need not keep asking to be placed in certain situations. Some might even suggest that I may be one short of a six pack when it comes to certain assignments. When this is the furthest thing from the truth. I make rational decisions based on experience, skill and years of wisdom in which I formulate the best chance of a successful outcome. Those conclusions necessitates the need for me to ask to be given certain duties.

"If not I, than who?" We all need to ask ourselves this question and be honest and up front. Know and understand not only our own abilities, but our own limitations. Make correct decisions for yourself and your loved ones. Push yourself, don't make excuses, strive to be the game changer. There may be things worse than dying over, or there may be things worth dying for.

When it comes to my family I have left nothing to chance. Account numbers, passwords, life insurance policies, all my wishes, last letters to each family member, trust info, you name it is included in this packet. If I die my wife simply needs to open this up and follow it. She will have a lot to think about in the days and months following my death that most people don't even consider. I am attempting to make that process as easy as possible given her circumstances if I don't come home. Being prepared to die should be just as much of the process as being prepared to live. I live well and intend to die well also. I suggest everyone doing something similar to this as depressing as it may seem, it will be the best gift you can give your loved ones.

[Cincinnatus]

Surf,
Thanks for that thoughtful post. It certainly puts the whole subject here into perspective.

[Voodoo_Man]

How do you define hardship and experience here?

There are some very long and drawn out explanations.

The short is, it is different for everyone. What one person would consider hardship may not be for another and similarly for experience, since just because you experience something and learn from it that way, does not mean I have to share the experience in order to gain similar understanding.

[Voodoo_Man]

@Surf, I share your point of view. Having buried friends, hugged and apologized to their families for their loss is something that you simply never forget, get over or wash away with any amount of time or alcohol.

[C4IGrant]

I understand the intimacy of the question posed and I only share this information as something to consider. Bad things could happen if we take action, we might even end up losing our life. But bad things might happen for our lack of action. For some there may be demons or things to deal with personally that may be worse than death. I do not wish my wife to lose a husband and my kids to lose a father, however there are things that are painful to live with for lack of action. While my situation was not something that I controlled, it has greatly influenced my drive the last 11 or so years in regards to my mindset and drive to train and excel at what I do. Therefore I will share the following.....

I have come to my own conclusions a long long time ago. I have lost friends, one who was like a brother. His unit performed a task that was not their forte. Gathering intel and passing that to us for action was the job. It was our task to perform and instead they took direct action and he was shot and killed. Looking his wife, 7 and 11 year old daughters in the eyes was a watershed moment in time for me. That was my job. "If only I", then perhaps he would still be here. The anger, guilt and feeling of loss was something that I never wish to feel again.

Some people think I may extend myself much more than necessary. That perhaps I have done my fair share over the years and that I need not keep asking to be placed in certain situations. Some might even suggest that I may be one short of a six pack when it comes to certain assignments. When this is the furthest thing from the truth. I make rational decisions based on experience, skill and years of wisdom in which I formulate the best chance of a successful outcome. Those conclusions necessitates the need for me to ask to be given certain duties.

"If not I, than who?" We all need to ask ourselves this question and be honest and up front. Know and understand not only our own abilities, but our own limitations. Make correct decisions for yourself and your loved ones. Push yourself, don't make excuses, strive to be the game changer. There may be things worse than dying over, or there may be things worth dying for.

When it comes to my family I have left nothing to chance. Account numbers, passwords, life insurance policies, all my wishes, last letters to each family member, trust info, you name it is included in this packet. If I die my wife simply needs to open this up and follow it. She will have a lot to think about in the days and months following my death that most people don't even consider. I am attempting to make that process as easy as possible given her circumstances if I don't come home. Being prepared to die should be just as much of the process as being prepared to live. I live well and intend to die well also. I suggest everyone doing something similar to this as depressing as it may seem, it will be the best gift you can give your loved ones.

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I would first like to thank you for your very honest and heartfelt post (don't see this kind of thing on macho gun forums much these days).

In the D4 Vid, he says (paraphrasing); "Your gonna come into the place and shoot it up. That's fine, but we are going to turn things around on you and be the feeder." What I like about this statement is that you NEVER accept what someone is dictating to you.

If not I, than who? This always brings it home for me. I have spent the better part of my life shooting and training. I have spent the money and the time to learn from the worlds best instructors. If I cannot deal with a bad situation, then who will? Why did I go through all of that trouble just to let someone kill innocent people?? When I hear Christians and non-Christians (alike) say; "Why did GOD let those people be killed like that." The thought that always comes to my is GOD saying; "I sent YOU to do something about it!"


Your "death" folder really hit home for me (as my wife and I have the same thing). We have insurance policies and multiple sets of people to take care of our children. I think by covering all of ones bases, it some how releases you from the doubt of not wanting to get involved because you are worried about whom will take care of your family.


Again, excellent post Surf and one that I couldn't have written.



C4

[C4IGrant]

5. Dying well.

A. Dying protecting your family, Friends, etc (good).
B. Dying in a car crash (not good).
C. Standing up and doing the right thing means you will die well. Letting something bad happen (that you could have stopped), means that you will never be able to die well.




C4