Why Can't Some People Comprehend That I Don't Want To Gossip...?!?
To me it's a habit of some people almost as bad as substance addiction. In many cases it's something I detest.
There are many, many things I don't want to know about other people. If it happens to be potentially hurtful information you haven't shared a "juicy tidbit" with me, you've given me a burden that I must carry in silence forever and even worse, it's a burden that results in a more negative view of somebody I probably care about. If a person tells me something like that about another person I care about, they just made my life worse.
Unless the information is critical to my personal safety and well being and that of people I care about, I honestly don't want to know. If I'm being lied to about something and I need to know I can't trust a person that is one thing, but beyond that I'm not interested in their personal faults, failures, infidelities or other troubles...especially in matters they would rather keep private and personal.
And the worst part of the whole thing, at some point those people gave somebody their trust and depended upon them the STFU about the entire matter. Even more bizarre is they don't seem to understand that if they can't be trusted to keep those matters private then I know for certain I can never trust them or depend upon them about anything.
This is one of the main reasons my circle of friends is a pretty short list. But sadly there are people who are peripheral in my life, usually because they are somehow associated with that small circle and I have to endure some level of interaction with them as a result.
Earlier this week I actually stunned one of these people when I stopped them mid sentence and said "I don't want to know...why would I even want to know something like that about somebody else."
Can somebody explain this particular perversion to me. What benefit is there from betraying the trust of somebody who "thinks" you are a friend and putting their business out there literally to everyone you have any kind of contact with? Do they really think they are showing you your worth because they are trusting you with these secrets? Do they think I see them as more valuable because they are confiding in me things that are really none of my business? Even worse when it comes from somebody who really, really, really should know better and be above this kind of crap.
Really wish I could remove a few more people from my life without causing undue hardship to those I care about.
I know I have a real friend when it becomes necessary to share information about a mutual friend in order to try and help them and we discover we have both known for quite some time but never mentioned it to anyone else.
Last edited by SteyrAUG; 07-29-17 at 00:51.
It's hard to be a ACLU hating, philosophically Libertarian, socially liberal, fiscally conservative, scientifically grounded, agnostic, porn admiring gun owner who believes in self determination.
Chuck, we miss ya man.
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