Triad parents. Which makes more sense?

[Ron3]

And now for something completely different...

It's become very tough for two parents to raise a child. Especially when both need to work/get an education. The state ends up raising the kids.

One solution may be to have two parents working, another staying home to raise and school the children. "Triad parents".

Which set up would be the most practical in general? Two women and one man, or two men and one woman?

Asking for a friend...nah, the idea came up while chatting with a family member and it came down to this point. So I said I'd collect more opinions/ideas about which arrangement is probably better.

I think it would be better to have two men and one woman. Men don't live as long, tend to make more money, and have fewer health problems before they get older. They also need less emotional support than women and find it easier to be away should they need to travel. (generally)

Men tend to stray more of course, but if one does the remaining couple could "dump" him and still have each other to take care of the kids.

Anyway, thoughts?

[Whiskey_Bravo]

I came here thinking this was going to be a thread about members of the Triad gang. What I got instead was a thread about polygamy or something.

[opngrnd]

^This. Have you met people? I've met people, and they all hate each other.

Im just joking, kind of...take all the normal problems and add jealousy to them. It doesn't gets any better.

[AKDoug]

WTF? It is totally possible for two people to raise multiple children in this day and age if they give themselves totally to the responsibility of parenthood. It requires making good decisions and commitment. If you can't accomplish this then don't have kids. I am sick and tired of the attempts to justify the destruction of the traditional family.

[LMT Shooter]

This thread will probably get crazy.

Three parents is a bad idea, in any combo. The complications that would arise when relations between one of the trio & one or both of the others almost certainly would make most divorces between couples seem highly cordial.

[kwelz]

I know many people that have this or similar setups. It is fairly common for people who practice Polyamory. You get either triads or quads. Just like any other thing in life it works for some people but not for others. The biggest problem the ones I know face isn't jealousy within the relationship but the social stigma if/when people find out. In fact I generally see less Jealousy, cheating, etc in these relationships than I do in most traditional relationships.

Most I know of are two women and a man but I do know one triad that is two men and a woman. In that case one of the men (the Husband) stays home with the kids and the other two work, although in fairness he just has a job that lets him work from home so he works as well. All contribute equally to the household, etc. Gets really interesting when you are talking about things like Mortgage papers and deeds.

[R6436]

My initial reaction: No. Just F no. Along with destroying what is left of traditional families, as others have pointed out being a responsible parent requires good decisions and commitment. It also involves putting others before yourself. Three people in an adult relationship nearly always ends badly. So no. Just...no.

My second reaction: What does this have to do with organized crime?

[Diamondback]

ISTR a number of Group Psych studies that indicated groups of three were the least stable and made the worst decisions of all the various configurations studied, between "ganging up," "shifting alliances" and other things. Michael Crichton once mentioned some as part of the research he did before writing Sphere.

[MountainRaven]

I thought this had been used in one form or another for generations. The third "parent" was simply called something else: Governess, nanny, au pair, &c.

[AKDoug]

I thought this had been used in one form or another for generations. The third "parent" was simply called something else: Governess, nanny, au pair, &c.

or grandma...