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My Mom Reta is only 58 and it's stage 2 carcinoma. It's the same cancer Farrah Fawcett died from. It could be worse. At least it hasn't spread to other tissue to be stage 3 or spread to an organ to be stage 4. ETA: Don't know why I was calling it type 2 when I meant stage 2.
She's been undergoing chemo and radio for about a month in an attempt to shrink the tumor as much as possible. She's gotten fairly sick from the chemo and the radio has become painful.
For those that don't know me, I'm not a religious person but she's a Christian who plays the piano and rarely misses a service. She is fighting.
If you can pray for her we would appreciate it and if you don't pray any kind thoughts are also appreciated. We can use all the help we can get right now.
Thanks
Magic_Salad0892
04-16-13, 00:12
I can't offer much, but I can offer prayers.
I'm sure M4C will be behind you in any way it can.
I can't offer much, but I can offer prayers.
I'm sure M4C will be behind you in any way it can.
Thanks brother. It will bring her immense joy to know that you are praying for her!
Magic_Salad0892
04-16-13, 00:26
Thanks brother. It will bring her immense joy to know that you are praying for her!
Lol. You can thank M4C for even getting me into prayer again. I hadn't prayed in years before I came here.
Lol. You can thank M4C for even getting me into prayer again. I hadn't prayed in years before I came here.
Funny how that works, isn't it...
SixEight: will also oblige and include your mom in our prayers.
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Lol. You can thank M4C for even getting me into prayer again. I hadn't prayed in years before I came here.
It's funny how disconnected you can feel on our forum sometimes but other times closer than most of your family and in laws. Or at least the people here are the first to step up and put aside their differences. "Family is much more than blood" is a phrase I picked up somewhere.
I've had much better conversations here anyway. For the 100s of friends I've made there's also a handful of enemies I've helped make. Seems a pretty convenient time for me I suppose but I hope anything I've said can be put aside and we start fresh.
Funny how that works, isn't it...
SixEight: will also oblige and include your mom in our prayers.
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Thanks bro. I know we've had our differences but I appreciate it more than you know.
Magic_Salad0892
04-16-13, 01:02
It's funny how disconnected you can feel on our forum sometimes but other times closer than most of your family and in laws. Or at least the people here are the first to step up and put aside their differences. "Family is much more than blood" is a phrase I picked up somewhere.
I've had much better conversations here anyway. For the 100s of friends I've made there's also a handful of enemies I've helped make. Seems a pretty convenient time for me I suppose but I hope anything I've said can be put aside and we start fresh.
I've said it here before, regardless of personal differences, 95% of the dudes on this board, and for sure the more prolific members on this board are all on the same side. And I'd trust any of 'em.
Thanks bro. I know we've had our differences but I appreciate it more than you know.
I'm glad to see this board can do that.
Prayer inbound.
Strong history of cancer throughout my moms side of the family. I hate cancer almost as much as socialism.
Thoughts & prayers headed your way man. Very sorry to hear this. Miracles do happen, stay positive.
montanadave
04-16-13, 06:07
Best wishes for your mother. I hope her treatment proceeds as smoothly as possible so she can begin to heal and find comfort. I will keep her in my thoughts.
Be aggressive with her doctors regarding pain management. The medications are available, their side effects can be managed, and chronic pain saps energy from patients who need every available resource for healing and recovery.
Prayers FOR HER are easy, brother. I will pray for you and all of he relations as its tougher in many ways on them.
Question: is she open to alternative therapies? I'd search as much as possible.
I'll send a prayer too. If you tell us her first name it will help us a little.
SixEight, I will include you're Momma, you and your family in my daily prayers.
What is her name?
God be with the both of you to keep you close and strong.
My mother had a vicious three month fight with cancer. She was 60, way too young. I would never wish that pain on anyone or their families. Every time I hear of cancer it upsets me to no end.
I will certainly keep you and you family in my thoughts and hope for a good outcome.
Mom went through this a few years back...faith and family got her through it. Praying for your mother.
Praying for her as well SixEight. Also for you and your family to find peace and faith in trying times.
Prayers for you and yours heading your way.
That sucks, but now is the time to act.
I highly suggest you begin to research "super foods" and quality vitamin c supplements. A lot of people pass this stuff off as hocuspocus but I dont believe it is. Plus it cant hurt.
Also, a warrior mindset is a must. The mind is more powerful than anyone can imagine, your mother's got to stay positive and believe she can and will beat it.
Good luck, I hope your mother fights and beats the dirty SOB we know as Cancer.
Prayers out for your mom.
My mother had breast cancer 14 years ago and has been doing great ever since.
Always a scary situation and sometimes hard to keep the right mindset but, a good attitude goes a long way.
Overcome!
SWATcop556
04-16-13, 10:46
My wife was diagnosed with cancer at 24 and was told she would not be able to have kids.
6 years later she is cancer free and we have a beautiful little girl who is almost four going on eighteen.
My prayers are with you and your family. The pain management is key as well as managing the illness associated with chemo and treatment. A strong support system makes this easier.
We are here if you need anything.
Wow guys! She really lit up when I told her just from this one post a bunch of my pals (including some PMs) have her in their thoughts and prayers. :)
You can honestly feel the power of positive thought. She appreciates it very much and she told me to let you guys know.
ETA:
She's just amazed and happy that people all over the country are praying for her.
BTW, her name is Reta.
Prayers FOR HER are easy, brother. I will pray for you and all of he relations as its tougher in many ways on them.
Question: is she open to alternative therapies? I'd search as much as possible.
Alternative treatments is something I have thought about. There's a Cancer Treatment Center in Atlanta but my parents are old fashioned. They do what the doctor tells them and don't really challenge or question them. Either they aren't asking enough questions or the oncologists are uncertain at this point. It's good that she has a local oncologist as well as one from UAB so I hope they're making the right calls.
From the info I have, they hope the chemo and radio treatment will bring the tumor into full remission. That seems odd to me but I'm no expert. I would expect them to be more pessimistic and have a game plan in case the tumor doesn't go into full remission. They haven't talked about cutting what is left of the tumor (if they can't destroy it) so that kind of concerns me. It seems like the treatment is usually cut first, treat second but with this being the form of cancer it is I don't know.
Without hopefully going into too much graphic detail, they have her on a colostomy bag right now saying it is only temporary until the treatment is over. They had to do this in order to get more aggressive with the chemo and radio which was causing her a lot of pain. So this has helped her have more regular treatments. Ideally, the tumor will be in full remission and the bag can be removed. If they have to cut anywhere then the bag may be permanent.
That sucks, but now is the time to act.
I highly suggest you begin to research "super foods" and quality vitamin c supplements. A lot of people pass this stuff off as hocuspocus but I dont believe it is. Plus it cant hurt.
Also, a warrior mindset is a must. The mind is more powerful than anyone can imagine, your mother's got to stay positive and believe she can and will beat it.
Good luck, I hope your mother fights and beats the dirty SOB we know as Cancer.
That's a good point I haven't thought about and the doctors haven't discussed it with her AFAIK. It can't hurt. She is definitely a warrior.
She's trying to quit smoking for once so that's always good.
Your mother spuds like my parents. Continue to pray, research all you can and do all you can to keep everyone's spirits up. Healing is influenced by attitude. Laughter is good as is a clean diet.
If any of us ever meet...drinks, cigars, dinner, or ammo are on me gents.
It helps to keep her spirits up by her being around others. My Dad spends as much time with her as he possibly can from work and I've taken time off about as much as I can. My Grandmother has Alzheimer's so my two Aunts are busy with her and one works but at least they are there sometimes.
The hardest part for her has to be when she's alone with the worrying but she won't let me know that. I can imagine time passing at about the speed of pouring molasses on a cold winter day. She enjoys reading books and playing the piano when she's not visiting with my Grandmother. I was afraid she would be agonizing and really depressed but so far she's taking it well. I think she's resolved to what her fate has in store for her and what her faith can bring her.
SixEight,
I will be praying for your mother and that she comes out of this closer to God and to her family. Sounds like she is handling it as good as one can considering.
Anything we can do? You say she likes to read. Any books she is requesting?
SixEight if you dont mind pm me where you live in Alabama. I dont live too far from Meridian which is just west of Cuba, AL. Was curious if you lived close by.
-Jax
SixEight,
I will be praying for your mother and that she comes out of this closer to God and to her family. Sounds like she is handling it as good as one can considering.
Anything we can do? You say she likes to read. Any books she is requesting?
SixEight if you dont mind pm me where you live in Alabama. I dont live too far from Meridian which is just west of Cuba, AL. Was curious if you lived close by.
-Jax
Thanks bro but she has all she needs at the moment. I'll give my Dad credit - he takes good care of her.
You guys are doing enough just keeping her in your thoughts and prayers :)
Magic_Salad0892
04-16-13, 16:09
You should post updates on how she's doin' when the treatments start.
Do you guys who when that will be?
She's had treatment going off and on for about a month but I just now got around to posting anything about it. Wish I would have sooner because this has really helped her already. She's a trooper.
I'll keep you all posted.
ETA: Another one beat me to the post. Thanks mnoe82.
You guys will be in my families prayers.
Good luck and stay strong through all of this!
Slainte!
You guys don't screw around when it comes to prayer ;)
Seriously she won't believe me when I tell her how many of you are praying for her!
What did my wife the most good (besides God's dear grace) was reading the posts. She read the thread 3-4 times the day of the surgery. Get that sweet lady to a computer!
I did take the liberty of passing it on to another great group of guys.
Mods I am unsure if this is ok, asking for forgiveness is better than asking permission........ Sometimes.......:D
http://www.wedealinlead.net/forum/viewtopic.php?f=17&t=1164
Well the computer isn't the problem. I just got her a new one to do her church's books. They were on dial up for years but got tired of it and had it disconnected. They just seriously got DSL capability in the stix a few months ago so we need to get that hooked up.
Aww shit. I'll have to watch my dirty mouth and perverted mind. :o
HAHAHAHA!
Heck yeah man, I love it. Mommas watching you!
Seriously the prayers are awesome beyond awesome, they really are, but when they read it and see all these tough guys saying prayers for them it elevates it.
Books on Tape
IPod
IPad (WiFi is dangerous no matter what some will tell you, however).
Kindle
These are some ways to assist her. There are "healing" CDs she can use nightly, too. I used the sounds of loons and a passing storm. Can't say how exactly I found that; it was... just RIGHT somehow.
RogerinTPA
04-16-13, 21:38
Prayers sent SixEight. I wish her a speedy recovery.
What did my wife the most good (besides God's dear grace) was reading the posts. She read the thread 3-4 times the day of the surgery. Get that sweet lady to a computer!
That really really lightens the day hearing post like this Ryan.
SixEight keep us posted bud.
-Jax
My thoughts are out to you buddy. We just went through it ourselves. If there is one bit of advice I can give you it is to talk to us, talk to people, and listen.
Your family is going to enter a world that no one should ever have to enter, but many of us have. You will never be the same, but you will be stronger. You will be amazed at how much help, support, hope, and love people will offer you and your family. These emotions are why we all get up in the morning, kiss our loved ones, etc. They are also great at helping people get better (combined with modern medicine of course).
If you ever need help don't hesitate to ask. When people say "if there is anything we can do to help." trust me when I say the good ones mean it. And none of them will judge you for asking.
Man I'm sorry. Your mom and your entire family will be in my thoughts.
That really really lightens the day hearing post like this Ryan.
SixEight keep us posted bud.
-Jax
Thanks Jax, I ain't too good with words nice to know I get it right sometimes.
Nightly prayers are due gentlemen.
68, we are still here buddy, in Tiger Territory myself.
Thanks Jax, I ain't too good with words nice to know I get it right sometimes.
Nightly prayers are due gentlemen.
68, we are still here buddy, in Tiger Territory myself.
Thanks bro even though ur on the wrong side of the state. LOL
As Momma would say...Roll Tide!
Fall can't get here fast enough. She loves some college football.
Thanks bro even though ur on the wrong side of the state. LOL
As Momma would say..
Fall can't get here fast enough. She loves some college football.
Oh lord, I will continue to pray for y'all anyway, forgiveness is there if you ask him.
:jester:
I did have to edit your post so it was ok for me to quote :D.
God bless 68.
Oh lord, I will continue to pray for y'all anyway, forgiveness is there if you ask him.
:jester:
I did have to edit your post so it was ok for me to quote :D.
God bless 68.
Hey now. We don't all hate y'all! LOL
We pull for the Tigers when they're not playing us :)
Let the woman have her happiness.
See what I did right there? He he
Sorry, couldn't resist.
Magic_Salad0892
04-17-13, 22:50
Will some humor cheer your mom up?
I'm uploading my saved pics to photobucket today. Some of 'em.
http://i1101.photobucket.com/albums/g424/Magic_Salad0892/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg (http://s1101.photobucket.com/user/Magic_Salad0892/media/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg.html)
Hey now. We don't all hate y'all! LOL
We pull for the Tigers when they're not playing us :)
Let the woman have her happiness.
See what I did right there? He he
Sorry, couldn't resist.
HAHA!
I will be honest, all the UA fans that stepped up to collect money for the Toomer's Corner Oaks was beyond awesome
I pull for UA anytime they are not playin us, but I will never ever say those 2 words under extreme torture whatever don't matter can't do it......
Will some humor cheer your mom up?
I'm uploading my saved pics to photobucket today. Some of 'em.
http://i1101.photobucket.com/albums/g424/Magic_Salad0892/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg (http://s1101.photobucket.com/user/Magic_Salad0892/media/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg.html)
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA!!!
Will some humor cheer your mom up?
I'm uploading my saved pics to photobucket today. Some of 'em.
http://i1101.photobucket.com/albums/g424/Magic_Salad0892/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg (http://s1101.photobucket.com/user/Magic_Salad0892/media/393cf23_zps75c6de4d.jpg.html)
Hell yes! I'll have to see if she can load them on her phone or get my Dad to pull them up on his phone to show her. She'll get a kick out of that for sure!
Magic_Salad0892
04-17-13, 23:18
She'll get a kick out of that for sure!
Let me know, man. I got a lot of these. Laughs do wonders.
She keeps telling me to thank y'all for sending her thoughts and prayers from all over the country.
This week will end her fourth week of treatment and she's staying strong. She's lost a little weight but not too much and still has plenty of energy thankfully.
The only worry is not knowing how much the tumor has shrunk until two more weeks when the radiation is over and they can do an MRI.
jonconsiglio
04-18-13, 09:21
The good news is that it's stage 2, which means it hasn't matasticized (sp?). My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. They also found splats in his brain. Incredibly the spots are gone and the tumors, which completely covered his lungs, have shrunk to almost nothing.
But, it is stage 4. The chemo is working, but this is not remission. This will kill him. It's been horrible and I can imagine how you're felling. You guys will get through it and there's a very good chance she'll be around for many more years.
I'll be praying for you guys.
The good news is that it's stage 2, which means it hasn't matasticized (sp?). My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. They also found splats in his brain. Incredibly the spots are gone and the tumors, which completely covered his lungs, have shrunk to almost nothing.
But, it is stage 4. The chemo is working, but this is not remission. This will kill him. It's been horrible and I can imagine how you're felling. You guys will get through it and there's a very good chance she'll be around for many more years.
I'll be praying for you guys.
Thanks Jon.
I feel your pain but can't imagine how hard that is. My Dad has lost three brothers due to lung cancer.
Magic_Salad0892
04-19-13, 05:07
The good news is that it's stage 2, which means it hasn't matasticized (sp?). My Dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. They also found splats in his brain. Incredibly the spots are gone and the tumors, which completely covered his lungs, have shrunk to almost nothing.
But, it is stage 4. The chemo is working, but this is not remission. This will kill him. It's been horrible and I can imagine how you're felling. You guys will get through it and there's a very good chance she'll be around for many more years.
I'll be praying for you guys.
I can't imagine what that's like, man. Your dad will be in my thoughts as well.
As of right now she's in full remission :)
We're staying cautiously optimistic until some more tests are run.
I can't thank you guys enough for your support.
Voodoochild
06-04-13, 05:40
Prayers out man. Lost my Dad and Uncle to cancer. If there is one blessing in all of this it is that it hasn't spread. Tell her to keep up the good fight.
lethal dose
06-04-13, 06:26
Just saw this thread- I don't show my face a lot anymore. Know that I'll be praying.
montanadave
06-04-13, 06:35
That's good news. I wish her the best for continued recovery and good health.
jonconsiglio
06-04-13, 07:24
Awesome. Now let this be your opportunity to say the things you always should have said and make right anything that needs to be made right.
Very glad to hear it brother.
Awesome news SixEight! May she continue in her healing and live a full, healthy life. Prayers still inbound brother.
My prayers are with you. I lost my dad this past Dec from complications of Parkinson's, dementia and spinal meningitis. Hang in there. It's tough watching you're loved one go through suffering. Act in love for your mom. All the best to you and your mom.
Prayers got her and ALL of her relations.
I am a big alternative health guy and there may be some alternative therapies that could assist.
"One man with courage makes a majority."
You are all awesome for helping us through this! It's bittersweet to hear about all your losses but there have been some good success stories.
I forgot to mention as of right now she doesn't have to have more chemo like the oncologists originally thought. The first treatments were rougher on her than the radio.
Magic_Salad0892
06-04-13, 08:50
Great to hear, man. :)
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