New Family member. With a bit of why some people really suck.

[kwelz]

So you have a wife & a girlfriend? And your girlfriend also has a fiancé? Does he know of the relationship situation and/or is he involved too? Do you all sleep together?

Maybe it's just me but it doesn't sound like the healthiest environment to raise a child. JMO

Why not? More people to help take care of her and love her. Although the (ex)Fiance is out of the equation now. He pretty much did himself in during the whole pregnancy. Frankly I am glad. She deserves better people in her life.

It doesn't long-term. He just hasn't gotten to that point yet.

Observed evidence would disagree.




Now more cuteness.

[Irish]

1. Epidurals are the best thing in the world. Anyone who tells you different deserves a throat punch.

I know my wife and a few of her friends who would completely disagree with your assessment. Wait'll your leg or hand falls asleep and try doing something that requires manual dexterity or mobility. Essentially the same thing. If you can't feel what's going on down south it's hard to know what to do in terms of utilizing those muscles. Just food for thought.

Congrats on the new baby! Get lots of sleep now, you'll need it later.

[NoveskeFan]

Yes I have a wife and a girlfriend. Yes they both know. In fact they are very good friends and work together.
I live a bit of a non standard lifestyle. I started to gloss over it but honestly I don't care at this point. I am not ashamed of the people I love.


Any advice on things you overlooked that I may as well?

Cool, as long as everyone is happy then no need to be ashamed or hide it. We did the standard stuff; outlet plugs, cabinet "locks" (didn't take my daughter long to break those-maybe bad install on my part), moved small breakable items further up bookcases. On Bookcases - My daughter is two, and started climbing up a bookcase a few months ago. We caught her before she made any progress, but I had a minor heart attack envisioning the bookcase falling back on her, so I'd recommend bookcase straps/anchors.

Also, cat / dog food or anything else that babies can fit in their mouth. We had to block off the kitchen for a bit while she was crawling because she always wanted the pets stuff. If you have floor length curtains, you might want to change them out for a bit. Once she starts walking, don't turn your head for a second. My girl finished lunch, so I got her out of her chair and sat her in front of the TV. Went to start the washing machine, left the laundry room door open with the detergent cup on top of the washer. She was still in front of the TV. I took apart the high chair to get the seat cover and straps together to throw them in the wash. In the 20 seconds it took, I turned around and my daughter is walking towards me from the direction of the hall, holding out her hand which was wet. Puzzled, I picked her up and realized the liquid was detergent. SHIT!!! Luckily, she pushed the cup into the washer spilling some back on her hand...so no call to poison control.

Also, she will cry...and cry...and cry. If she's had a bottle, not running a fever, and seems ok otherwise, sometimes you just have to leave her in the crib and close the door. Dealing with an infant when you're frustrated and tired can be bad and just not a good idea.

We are learning as we go, as she is our first. You'll be tired and stressed, the living room will be trashed...but you'll also proud and so happy. Her first "dada" and "moma" will melt you. Her starting to crawl will make you ecstatic. Her first steps will be bittersweet as you realize she's growing up so fast. I never saw my Dad cry until my little sisters wedding.

Not sure how you feel about country:

[TriviaMonster]

A wife, a gf, and a newborn in the same house? Your life is stressing me out and I don't even know you. Plus babies are little suicide machines. But they are fun!

[skijunkie55]

I know my wife and a few of her friends who would completely disagree with your assessment. Wait'll your leg or hand falls asleep and try doing something that requires manual dexterity or mobility. Essentially the same thing. If you can't feel what's going on down south it's hard to know what to do in terms of utilizing those muscles. Just food for thought.

Congrats on the new baby! Get lots of sleep now, you'll need it later.

Guess I should have prefaced that with "after 18+ hours of active labor..."

I wouldn't recommend getting an epidural the second one goes into labor as it's always better to be up and moving, but if you're in excruciating pain and can't move anyway, might as well be comfortable... My wife tried 100% natural with our first. She went into back labor after 20 hours. 2nd time around, we decided on the epidural after 8 hours. Way less yelling, crying, and cursing

[kwelz]

Haha. She was at about 7 hours of labor when she asked for the epidural.

[alienb1212]

Why not? More people to help take care of her and love her. Although the (ex)Fiance is out of the equation now. He pretty much did himself in during the whole pregnancy. Frankly I am glad. She deserves better people in her life.



Observed evidence would disagree.




Now more cuteness.

I'm really not trying to shit on your lifestyle or choices, I'm just saying. I'd bet my life on the fact that within a year this will not be ending well.

Cute kid.

[Irish]

Guess I should have prefaced that with "after 18+ hours of active labor..."

I wouldn't recommend getting an epidural the second one goes into labor as it's always better to be up and moving, but if you're in excruciating pain and can't move anyway, might as well be comfortable... My wife tried 100% natural with our first. She went into back labor after 20 hours. 2nd time around, we decided on the epidural after 8 hours. Way less yelling, crying, and cursing

That's a long time and I don't envy her! Mine did both of ours natural. Not saying it's for everyone but it is an option. Glad she gave it her all!

[Ryno12]

Why not? More people to help take care of her and love her. Although the (ex)Fiance is out of the equation now. He pretty much did himself in during the whole pregnancy. Frankly I am glad. She deserves better people in her life.

I guess for reasons I feel are obvious. You've posted a lot about your various hardships & based off of hearing about some of your life choices, I'm wondering how much of it you've directly &/or indirectly brought upon yourself. My personal opinion is that your lifestyle isn't exactly the healthiest environment to raise a child. I'm not preaching or coming down on you; it's just my opinion. You're free to do as you please but also take the child into consideration. I was brought into this world by traditional parents. I'm not sure that I'd have turned out any better had I additionally been loved by their swinging partners.

[Sensei]

I guess for reasons I feel are obvious. You've posted a lot about your various hardships & based off of hearing about some of your life choices, I'm wondering how much of it you've directly &/or indirectly brought upon yourself. My personal opinion is that your lifestyle isn't exactly the healthiest environment to raise a child. I'm not preaching or coming down on you; it's just my opinion. You're free to do as you please but also take the child into consideration. I was brought into this world by traditional parents. I'm not sure that I'd have turned out any better had I additionally been loved by their swinging partners.

That about sums up my advice for this situation.