Could not have said it better myself. Also want to emphasize the absolute importance of boundaries, rules and routine. A two year old will test you, and they really do crave order.
Some random advice - definitely have your wife join a local moms swip swap group online. We have literally saved thousands buying kids stuff (clothes, toys, furniture) that way for our 2 and 4 yr old and then reselling or trading when they grow out of it. It really is a great thing. We are in a very good place financially, but when it comes to kids stuff, it's almost irresponsible to not save money this way.
I'd also recommend finding a foster parent support group.
I would also get a court order against the biological father asap, shouldn't be hard with his legal issues, because I promise you if he thinks there is ANY was to leverage the angel to squeeze some $ from you, he will try it. Same with the mother. Get a lawyer and investigate this.
Kids are the absolute best thing in life - and you are lucking out skipping the whole newborn no sleep zombie mode phase
Good luck - you are very likely saving this child's life!
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