My situation is hopeless

[thepatriot2705]

So my house is a nightmare. Mom was over today and about broke out in tears and wishes I would have some fun once in a while. Well, we got to talking and I spilled the beans about having an auditory processing disorder and the likely hood of me ever having friends was about zero.

She wants the best for me, but I continually fail. I don’t care but seeing her hurt because of my circumstances absolutely crushes me.

Truth be told, I wish I had never been born. Suicide is 100% wrong. I don’t know why. I didn’t ask to be brought into this world. It ****ing kills me seeing my mom unhappy because I’ve my shortcomings which I work so hard to address. It ****ing kills me even more because she wants to blame herself.

I end this post with this: **** the medical system. The medical system tired pushing me adderall as a kid. Turns out it’s not adhd, it’s an auditory processing disorder that mimics the symptoms of adhd. There would have been a slight hope to outgrow this if doctors considered it.

[Coal Dragger]

Your situation is not hopeless. The problem is hopefully identified correctly now. You can pursue therapy to treat it and hopefully greatly improve your ability to communicate and understand communication from others.

[thepatriot2705]

Your situation is not hopeless. The problem is hopefully identified correctly now. You can pursue therapy to treat it and hopefully greatly improve your ability to communicate and understand communication from others.

Once you get to adulthood, there is zilch to be done about it.

[THCDDM4]

Once you get to adulthood, there is zilch to be done about it.

That’s not 100% true. While it can be much harder to treat, there are treatments and new info, programs and tools are developed on the adult side of APD every year.

There are brain training programs that take advantage of the plasticity of the brain to improve processing skills- at any age.

One such program:
https://www.gemmlearning.com/can-hel...ading-program/

If you feel it is hopeless, it is, if you have hope it isn’t hopeless.

I’m not gonna tell you to focus on the positives in life or give a big speech on what’s worth living for, or tell you that there are people worse off- usually depressed people hate hearing that shit and none of it really matters anyways.

All I will say is that the world is what you make it. Embrace the suck or do something to change it for the better- it’s up to YOU.

There is help out there if you want it. There are programs that you may benefit from if you put the time and effort in.

Have you tried reaching out to multiple audiologists?

I wish you well.

[BangBang77]

Nothing is hopeless.

Each of us, no matter the storm or dark days, have something positive that we open our eyes for every morning. Find that, latch on to it, and keep driving on. One more step, one more bite, one more fight.

I grew up in A Nightmare on Elm Street with twice the violence. I carry physical scars because of that and I carried (past tense) emotional scars up until mid-2019.

No one is too far gone or beyond the pale.

[Ready.Fire.Aim]

You’re a good person to care so deeply about your mom’s feelings. That’s more than so many people who only care about themselves.
Don’t forget Sunday is Mother’s Day.

[SteyrAUG]

Given the frequency of these posts and the nature of this one, it's time to stop discussing it on the internet and get professional help. This is not a shot, this is not an insult, this is not a judgement.

You don't seem capable of managing your situation, the most important thing you can do is get help and I mean this week.

[Firefly]

You made it this far in life, and now it’s a problem?

I will tell you something. Whatever it is you think you want in life will not make you happy once you get it. All you would be doing is “proving a point” to people who are ultimately indifferent.

If it’s women, I can tell you that most people don’t have good male/female relationships these days because women want to be like men and men want to be like boys.

If it’s money, the impending hyperinflation will make whatever headway you get null and void.

If you hate your job, take up welding

I mean, I will deign to assume you are 25-30. Every man goes through an identity crisis of sorts. Everybody thinks they should be doing XYZ, but let me say this...

Once you hit your forties, you seriously stop caring about dick size, money, what women think, what your enemies think, blah blah blah.

You wake up one day and in your mind you feel the same but then you are middle aged and closer to death. And even if death don’t bother you....it’s closer and closer and closer each day.

So see a shrink, take a pill, rent a hooker, and count your blessings.

You’re not on the streets turning tricks for some black guy named Ronald Gene the Sex Machine and you’re paralyzed or an amputee.

[BoringGuy45]

Given the frequency of these posts and the nature of this one, it's time to stop discussing it on the internet and get professional help. This is not a shot, this is not an insult, this is not a judgement.

You don't seem capable of managing your situation, the most important thing you can do is get help and I mean this week.

Seriously, listen to this, thepatriot!

Don't poopoo talking to a counselor. It's not some headshrinking, new age-y, woke bullshit for cowards and hipsters. It can work. It's no magic pill, it's take awhile, and you'll need to work at it, but it works. Look for someone who does cognitive behavioral therapy.

You could benefit from some kind of group therapy too; it will help you feel less isolated.

Also, I strongly suggest getting on some antidepressants. People scream and gnash their teeth when you say "SSRI" because they're an alternative scapegoat to mass shootings, but that's all bullshit. You could benefit from being something like Zoloft, Luvox, or Lexapro for some time.

[prepare]

Since your'e capable of great things start by pulling your head out your ass.

Are your thoughts absolutely true?

The problem is you believe your own BS thoughts. You cannot distinguish the truth from the repetitive drama. It sucks you in every time.

The hopelessness is your thoughts. Your'e creating the nightmare.

Step back and observe the horror film thats playing in your head and see it for what it is.

Here is a little clue, thoughts are not reality...