My world upside down and things I have learned.

[hotbiggun42]

I cant imagine what your going through.
RIP Mrs Agr1279

[mpom]

Sorry for your loss,, and appreciate you sharing what you are going through. Its a good reminder to appreciate what I have. Good thing you are mentally and spiritually strong. Your girls are fortunate to have you as their Dad.

[Send it...]

Blessings my friend. Prayers for you and your family.

[gaijin]

The “damage control”/financial/picking up pieces- you’re experiencing is a Soul sapping nightmare.
It’s 7 months since my wife passed, October would be our 32nd Anniversary.
While I have no way of knowing how YOU feel, I imagine the negative experiences I’ve had are similar.

I’ve found some relief in being involved with others and their struggles FWIW.
The worst thing I can do is isolate, which is my nature unfortunately.
Do what’s in front of you. Keep moving forward.

[militarymoron]

I'm very sorry for your loss.

[SteyrAUG]

Update

Next Wednesday 5 months will have passed. I figured I'd give you an update on what has been going on.

Everything changed, nothing will be the same.

I know there is little anyone in the internet can say that will bring any peace or comfort. But do your best to continue to realize everything changed for your daughters as well. Your 12 year old will want to try and remain a 12 year old because that is her connection to what was lost.

Clearly you have come to realize you have a "two parent" job now and you are on your own. You'll do your best with it because there is no other choice for you. But don't set your expectations so high you always fail them.

Most things won't be the same, so try and start new traditions or find some way to make the old ones slightly different so they are a comfort rather than a painful reminder of what is gone. You and your girls are now in this together, you'll find out what they want for christmas, and honestly the gifts will likely to be less important to them just as they are for you now. The things that bring you comfort are whole house generators because you know your family is "ok" and as a former Floridian, great purchase btw.

For your girls that enjoy shooting, that could be a good family event. Maybe once a week hit the range and do take out meals instead. They are going to end up being a lot more independent than they had to be, so might as well help them with that too. I would definitely max out all the family time while they are at this age as is reasonably possible.

The larger picture is still going to be horrible, it never gets completely better and the more you cared the more you will feel the loss. I hope you are able to fill the empty spaces with good things as much as possible.

[chadbag]

Sorry for your loss.

That must be hard. Not having experienced it, I had no idea but I know it's hard. RIP your wife.

Thanks for posting as its a reminder that I need to make sure everything is in order in terms of information in case something similar were to happen here. My dad passed a year ago (at the age of 86 so a pretty good life) and he had a folder all organized with all the infor,ation. He also knew the end was coming as he had prostate cancer that had metastasized so he made sure I knew how to log into everything, etc. But I still need prods to organize things for ourselves...

[Adrenaline_6]

Sorry brother. I know what your feeling. Lost mine in May of 2022. Sounds like you have great daughters around you. This helps...a lot. The hard part is just being the "strong one" for them, even when some days you feel like breaking down. After that, it's just time, but it will get better. Take care of yourself.

[Alex V]

I can't imagine the pain you are feeling and FWIW I am so sorry for your loss and that of your girls.