Wow, Getting a Divorce...

[M4Fundi]

I'm a pretty private person, but am so saddened by this I thought maybe some fellow M4C members might have some advice. Wife is seriously mentally ill and won't get help, so I had the family come in for Easter to have a family intervention to encourage her to get the help she so desperately needs. DISASTER! 6 days later she has cleaned out the bank accounts, gotten an evil divorce attorney and is demanding that I'm out of the house by Sat and am never to speak to her family again or she will file (false) spousal abuse charges and have my CCW revoked, guns confiscated and put me on a Domestic Violence watch list unless I do EXACTLY what she wants. She knows exactly how to get at me. The only councilor I managed to get her to see for a short time taught me that when she acts out to respond with, "I love you anyway, its the disease I hate and not you" and thats as tough on her as I have ever been. I want to protect myself, but I still want to help her. I'm a Christian and do not believe in divorce, but I guess its not going to be up to me. I feel so tired.

Oh and I'd like to thank Grant again for the Christmas gift as it was all I got and his Christian charity brought tears to my eyes! Thanks Grant!

[mr_smiles]

Sorry about your troubles, document anything she does, threats etc. Find out your state law on recording phone calls etc with out the other parties notice (in many states this is highly illegal, but a few allow it) It sucks, but if theirs nothing you can at least protect yourself.

[Irish]

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[3CTactical]

Sorry to hear that man. I'm also Christian and don't believe in divorce, except in extreme cases, such as spousal abuse, adultery, etc. Are all of these threats and demands just the mental disease talking or is she just so upset that she's socking it to you? I would do everything I could to protect myself (get yourself a good laywer), but at the same time I would continue to reach out to her - if you think it would help. It's so hard to give advice when the exact details of your situation can be pivotal in how you should handle it.

Regardless, keep praying, hoping and stay strong in the Lord, brother. I'll be praying for you and your wife.

[TOrrock]

Having gone through a divorce, I'll tell you it sucks worse than anything else I've lived through, but you do live through it and things get better.

Not knowing the whole story, it sounds like it's a lost cause.

You need to lawyer up asap.

Best of luck man, believe it or not, it does get better.

[BradCMSP]

Best of luck man.

[Artos]

You need to lawyer up asap.

^^^^^^^^THIS^^^^^^^^^

[Cold Zero]

Very sorry to hear about this. Eventually, there will be brighter days ahead and you will get through this.

I am at a loss for meaningful words. But, you need to immediatly do some research on finding a quality/experienced Divorce Att and retain him. Plan that she will go after your guns and strategize accordingly. Worst case scenario.

[mmike87]

Sorry about your troubles, document anything she does, threats etc. Find out your state law on recording phone calls etc with out the other parties notice (in many states this is highly illegal, but a few allow it) It sucks, but if theirs nothing you can at least protect yourself.

Actually, I think in most states one-party consent is acceptable. Be sure and check - but I'd keep a little pocket digital recorder in my pocket and when conversing with her if she threatens to make false accusations against you you'll have some defense.

Best of luck to you.

[mhanna91]

I know nothing about going thru a divorce, other than the fact that my parents went through it and it sucked. Dad got screwed. I would, as soon as possible, or right after you find yourself a divorce att, find a very trustworthy friend or family member to "sell" your weapons to. I don't think they will be able confiscate what you do not own.