Wow, Getting a Divorce...

[TY44934]

At least consulting a reputable attorney would appear to be your best move.

Further, you might consider removing all firearms & ammunition from the family home (since it appears mental illness may be present) and temporarily storing everything at an eligible family member's home in the same state (outside your possession) or possibly to a safe deposit box.

Restraining orders are sometimes issued under false pretenses. Hasn't such a threat already been made? Again, if there is mental illness involved, you might want to protect yourself from predicatble criminal charges - even if they are based on another's lies or dilusions.

Divorce is ugly. No doubt about that.

[d90king]

First off, sorry you are having to go through this shit. My thoughts and prayers are coming your way.

Okay now for the important part...

DO NOT SKIMP on your legal counsel! It is vital that you have the best lawyer money can buy. I would recommend removing ALL of your weapons from the home until you leave.

Unfortunately when women go nuts they do shit that you could never imagine that they would do. It almost seems like they lose their sense of humanity.

Document with your legal counsel every threat that you can and it might be wise to see if you can find any grounds for a PFA. Any upper hand that you can get will go a long way during your proceedings.

DO THIS NOW! Do not wait for her to go bat shit crazy and put your rights in jeopardy long term. This will pass but it wont be an easy situation to go through.

[Gramps]

Further, you might consider removing all firearms & ammunition from the family home (since it appears mental illness may be present) and temporarily storing everything at an eligible family member's home in the same state (outside your possession) or possibly to a safe deposit box.

Guns? What Guns? I sold them for $10 each, to help pay for a lawyer!

[SpankMonkey]

Sorry to hear this. I have been there and done that. It sucks. Check your state laws. Some states you can record phone calls and some you cannot. Most states do allow open area/public places recordings. Try to have meetings in public places. Tell her it's for her safety as well as your own.

Protect yourself the best you can. Make sure and lawyer up. Find the best lawyer you can afford.

[Gentoo]

GET YOUR GUNS OUT OF THAT HOUSE NOW!!!

Put them at a friends, a relatives, anywhere but there. Get a lawyer ASAP.

Don't worry too much about the BS spousal abuse charges. The cops aren't idiots, and neither is the judge. Lies will be seen for what they are; and she isn't the first person to decide to file for divorce and then 'suddenly' manufacture abuse charges. All women think they are clever and the only ones to come up with that plan.

Good luck to ya.

[skipper49]

Been through exactly the same as you. Mine was after 30 years of marriage, though the last 15 were beset with bad mental illness on her part. She was twice hauled off in "bracelets", two suicide attempts, and 5 involuntary stays in state hospital.
Just two basic things:
1. Get all the guns out quickly. She may try to use one on you. Mine did.
2. As has been said, get an expensive lawyer with much divorce work under his belt. Get the right one and you won't have to do anything, he'll do it for you, and, he'll guide you every step of the way. He's dealt with many women just like your wife.

PS: There is life after divorce. I'm married to a wonderful Christian woman who treats me like a king, and I try to reciprocate. A peaceful home is priceless!

God bless
Skip

[arbninftry]

After 10 years, my ex ran out on my second tour in Iraq. She had developed a cocaine problem, and adding insult to injury, she ran off with her coke dealer. She cleaned everything out, even the coat hangers and ice trays. The only advice any one can give you to mean anything, is take care of yourself and do what you can to protect yourself. Everyone will give you advice, just do things for yourself now, and what happens is out of your control. Just dont hit the bottle, it will never help matters.

[Pathfinder Ops]

Divorced guy here also and I cannot state the above advice about getting a lawyer and getting your guns secured elsewhere seriously enough.

Do it (secure your guns) legally though. And read this thread: https://www.m4carbine.net/showthread.php?t=51649 I don't know if the specifics are pertinent to you but the concept is more along what I'm using as an example.

Dude get a lawyer. Be proactive here. If she is unstable according to your assessment AND she has already threatened you; she will throe you under the bus in a NY minute at sometime in the near future.

What I mean by near future is that this divorce thing is only gonna get uglier before it gets better. When it does (and it will) anything can happen and if she is pissed off enough there is no telling what she will say or do.

Preempt the crisis by getting this stuff documented and have legal council dialed in.

Good luck friend. It's gonna get crazy. Hold on to your hat.

[kymarkh]

Hang in there brother - fight the good fight - and know that our thoughts and prayers are with you in the dark days ahead. There is likely a $hit-storm brewing, but calm will prevail after it passes... it always does.

[loupav]

Sorry to hear of your problems. My thoughts are with you. Hang in there bro.