Wow, Getting a Divorce...

[TY44934]

When you go to clean out the house, you might consider bringing a family member along who can take care of your guns & ammunition until this blows over. Seriously, think and plan ahead. She has lied in the past & made threats. Protect your rights & enjoy them later.

[VooDoo6Actual]

M4fundi,

Sorry to hear about your situation.

Prepare for the worst and been through it myself...


"I have known more men destroyed by the desire to have wife and child and to keep them in comfort than I have seen destroyed by drink and harlots."

Willam Butler Yeats

Here is some advice from someone who has BTDT etc.

Your better to get an attorney that handles it at a FLAT RATE.
Hourly fees are part of the tactics and strategy to bleed the other person out by attrition. ( I know this by being in the industry for many years, working for many attorney's and having beat my EX by doing this strategy). Your soon to be Ex Wife's attorney will most likely play this card.

The attorney's have their OWN best interest at heart. So remember they have your back but in reality they are protecting themselves. How do I know this, I sued my first attorney for Malpractice, breech of fiduciary duties, overbilling etc. Went through arbitration won, then sued civily and won that too. Attorney I sued Malpractice Insurance policy picked up that check and I received money back.

You may PM me. I well versed in divorce tactics etc. Been through 730 Family Evaluation, 730 Forensic Accounting, Vocational examination, Beaucoup OSC's, Ex Parte etc. you name it.....

Tough times don't, last tough men do....


HTH....

HTH....

[mrbieler]

I don't have much to add except that I am sorry you are going through this.

If it helps at all with the reality of divorce looming and your beliefs in conflict, from your post above your marriage was based at least partially on deceit on your wife's part. Sounds like she has been down this road before and you are simply one more victim.

[CarlosDJackal]

That sucks. My prayers for you and your family.

Have you consulted a Defense Lawyer on how you can protect your civil rights from any such false charges? I'd carry around a recorder or a small video camera like this: AEE Law Can PD80 HD Mini DV Camera

Not to say that you give up on your wife; just suggesting that you take the appropriate CYA actions to prevent what happened to a friend of mine when he had to call 911 when his wife did the same thing. He ended up in jail and almost lost his right to own firearms.

Good luck and I do hope things work out for the better.

[Artos]

I moved to CO knowing no one but my wife and do not have a large community to back me up.

Surround yourself with the close friends and family you do have available and know your m4 amigos are here for you as well.

I would also be very careful about what you share with others and online in regards to her actions. EVERTHING you do, say or write could be used against you so be weary at all times.

Chin up!!

[RogerinTPA]

Based on her threat and history, as others have said, get a great lawyer, don't leave the home, change the locks, put her shit out, move and secure the weapons, and file a restraining order against her. Next time she shows up, call the cops on her and claim spousal abuse. Good luck brother.

[BVickery]

I am undergoing a divorce as well.

There is great advice on the board, and though everyone says get the best attorney you can afford, but make sure you get one that you feel comfortable with. The very first lawyer I went with didn't feel right with me, she seemed more intent in making sure my soon tob ex-wife was taken care of than me and seemed to be looking at ways to protect her assets and not mine. Also, when my ex hinted she MAY try and take a restraining order out on me, I expressed my concerns to the lawyer and the answer I got was less than reassuring).

The next lawyer I met/talked with was great. He listened to what I had to say, he explained to me that at this stage there was nothing I could do to prevent the possible Restraining Order.

Good luck, and I found out heading to church did a lot for me, also, if you have dogs/pets they will help you through it all.

Good luck,

Brian

[Roklok]

Get a good lawyer today. Never go to your house or to see her by yourself. Always have a friend or two with you. Get your firearms, ammo, and accessories out of the house now and have friends with you when you do it. Do not even talk to her on the phone. All correspondance should be made thru your lawyer. Now is not the time to be a nice guy. Good luck.

[M4Fundi]

MIRACLE FROM GOD TODAY... I'm almost afraid to write this as its friggin unbelievable, but here goes.

Today was the "illegal" deadline my wife had given me and my $4k lawyer left me hanging and got nothing done to keep me safe, so I decided I had to go by my house to make certain my wife was not on a spree of destruction, but SERIOUSLY feared for my well being going there. I'm about 5 FRUSTRATED AGONIZING blocks from the house and 2 LEOs driving at hi speed lights blazing are coming up on my 6 and I'm thinking I'm not even to the house yet and they pass me. They take a turn from a big street onto a small street and cross a deep drainage. The LEO in the rear his trunk pops open/pops shut and I see a familiar black case (M4 Case) fly out into the middle of the intersection. I pull a u-turn thru screaming traffic to save the rifle. The case is empty, but full of loaded mags. I police the intersection looking to see if anything else (M4) is lying about and then put the bag/mags in my truck. I try and find the LEOs first thinking he might get an ass chewing or alot of ribbing if I call dispatch. Can't find them so call dispatch and try and cover for him telling her it looked as tho his trunk was closed and the latch had to of broken (not him forgetting to close it in a hurry) The thankful LEOs meet up with me later and then I tell them MY predicament and after some debate because my wife had documentable history of suicide attempts (unknown to me before we were married) they agreed to both escort me home and supervise the retrieval of all my firearms. They also told me she can NOT make me leave, can NOT throw out/sell/destroy my property, & that her threats were wrong, but not a crime till she made good on them, but did tell me if she was able to convince a judge that it would be most unpleasant and that I should not have to leave my home, but it if she was mentally unstable it was probably for the best.

Wow, I wanted a police supervision and the Sheriff's office gave me the run around and I had given up on it and God said, "well here you go 2 friendly LEOs !" I guess the Lord knew I would have needed them!

I have to admit when they knocked on the door & my wife answered the frightened look on her face broke my heart! Even tho she created the situation it was horrible to see her so scared if only for the short moment as she recovered and had her game face on when she realized she was not in trouble. Never in my life could you have convinced me that I would ever have to bring LEOs to my house to deal with my wife with all the neighbors watching I've never felt so low and disheartended. But it was truly a miracle from the Lord none the less.

God Bless

[HES]

I am sorry you have to go through this. You've gotten the good advice about lawyering up and being proactive and protecting yourself. So I'm not gonna go into detail on it.

However I do know what it is like dealing with a severely mentally ill family member. I know how heart breaking, gut wrenching and emotionally draining it is. I know how it wears you down and destroys the entire family. I know the pain you are going through. Just remember we will make it through this and come out better. Like you, I hope and pray for a better life for our mentally ill family members, a life where we are all reunited, but if they are not with us, they are mentally stable. Keep your hope and faith up.

Oh one thing I just thought about, when being proactive with your lawyer, have him / her demand a psychological fitness evaluation for your ex-spouse. Cut her off with any claims of abuse or in trying to get your weapons. Any judge worth his or her salt should see that you are a good man in a bad situation.